Sunday, June 24, 2012

Have you surrendered your dreams to God? by bro. bo sanchez

Do you want to fulfill your dreams?
You need to surrender your dreams to God.
Many people have taught you to seek your dreams.
But very few have taught you to surrender your dreams.
Don’t get me wrong. Seeking your dreams is important. I always tell people, “You need to know your dream, define your dream, and pursue your dream. You need to have a firm grip on your dream—to eat, talk, walk, and sleep with your dream. I believe that if you don’t seek your dream with fierce commitment, your dreams won’t come true.”
But there’s a second phase to fulfilling your dreams.
At a certain point, after seeking your dream, you need to surrender your dream to God.
Or else you won’t have peace.
In the Bible, God told Abraham to sacrifice his son on the altar (Genesis 22). From personal experience, I’ve noticed that God asks us to offer what is most dear to us.
God calls you to surrender your dream on the altar.
Let me say it in another way. There are two extremes that you need to avoid.
First is when we have no dreams. There are people I know who wake up in the morning not knowing what to do. Because they have no dreams. And a person who has no dreams has already started dying.
That’s why every Sunday at the Feast (our weekly spiritual gathering), I teach people how to dream. I teach people to write 7 dreams on their Novena to God’s Love (it’s a little booklet we give to all first timers)and pray for them everyday.
The second extreme is when their dream consumes their life, it actually destroys them, or destroys their family, or destroys their health, or destroys their relationship with God.
These are people who say, “Unless I get a husband, I won’t be happy.”
Or “Unless I get healed, I won’t be happy.”
Or “Unless I get a baby, I won’t be happy.”
Or “Unless I get a house, I won’t be happy.”
Or “Unless I get a US Visa, I won’t be happy.”
How do you know if you need to surrender your dream to God? When your dream becomes more important than your life. When your dream steals away your peace. When your dream steals away your God.
What does surrendering your dream mean?
I’m not asking you to give up your dream. I’m asking you to give up your attachment to a specific version of your dream.
And that also means surrendering your attachment to a specific timetable of your dream.
Surrender means trusting that God has the best version in mind for you. That God’s best blessing will come in the best time and in the best way.
When you surrender your dream, you’re saying, “Even if I don’t get this dream, I’ll still be happy. Because my trust is in you, Lord.”
I believe something magical happens when you put your dream on the altar. When you surrender, you hear God speak to your heart and say, “Child, will you still want your dream if I tell you that I have something better for you?”
I want you to say this prayer to God right now: “Lord, I’m trusting you. I’ll still seek my dream with joyful passion, but I will surrender my attachment to the details of my dream. I will open myself to your wonderful surprises.”
God Will Allow Temporary Disappointments
My mother wanted me to be a priest.
When I was a little boy, she told me, “I’m praying that you become a priest. I’m not forcing you. But I’ll be the happiest woman in the world if you become a priest.”
Talk about subtle emotional manipulation (Haha).
When I was 16 years old, I took up philosophy for my college course, so that just in case God really called me to priesthood, I’ll be ready. (A.B. Philosophy is required for priesthood.)
After college, I also took all the required subjects for a Masters degree in Theology, again, just in case God really wanted me to be a priest. All the Bishop had to do was send me to a seminary for a year or two—and viola—I was ready for ordination.
But God never called me to be a priest.
When Mom learned that I had a girlfriend, it broke her heart. Aside from the fact that no woman was good enough for her son (Except for Mother Mary), her dream for me to become “Fr. Bo” was slipping through her fingers.
I’m sure there were many days when she imagined me to be a priest. I’m sure she imagined me wearing the clerical garb, celebrating Mass and consecrating the host. And one day, that beautiful picture was blown to bits.
But I also know that through many tears, Mom surrendered her dream for me to God. Like Abraham, she placed me at the altar.
And God gave her another version of that dream.
I didn’t become a priest. But I became a preacher, an author, an entrepreneur, and a leader.
Today, when my mother thinks of me, she’s still the happiest woman in the world!
I love being a lay preacher. I love sharing about how I raise my kids and how I love my wife—stuff that priests will never be able to share. And without the long robe, I feel a lot more irreligious people can identify with me.
Friend, God has a way of fulfilling the dreams in your heart in the best way possible. He will allow you to be temporarily disappointed, but never permanently disappointed.
You don’t have to understand it all. Just surrender your dream to God. Just let it go. Just let God. Enjoy your life today, even if that dream seems to be so far away.
In due time, you’ll see the best blessing coming your way.
May your dreams come true,
Bo Sanchez

Are you ready to move mountains today? by bro. bo sanchez

Once upon a time, I drove an old jeep.
It was my first vehicle. I had very little money—and it was the only thing I could afford. It was a malfunctioning, smoke-belching, about-to-disintegrate, made-in-the-backyard, owner-type jeep.
It conked out on me every other day. So much so that I pushed it more than I drove it. It was the reason why my thigh muscles and calf muscles became very developed.
I was so poor that I couldn’t buy brand new tires. So I had to buy old retreaded tires. So I had a flat tire every other week. Which was the reason why my biceps became very developed too.
And it was so rusty, people told me to get tetanus shots.
When I drove it on the road, I wasn’t afraid that cops would charge me for a traffic violation. I was afraid they would charge me for littering. It was so rusty, spare parts kept falling off my Jeep.
It was so bad, I really wondered why I still kept it.
I drove it because it was my only vehicle at that time.
But let’s imagine a wild scenario. (Suspend all logic.)
Imagine that one day, a guy knocked on my door and said, “Hi Brother Bo, I’d like to give you a birthday gift.” He then handed me a key. He turned around, walked away, leaving behind him a brand new, top-of-the-line, beautiful Jaguar.
I oohed and I aahed. I get hypnotized by its beauty.
Some months later, I drove my old jeep on the road—and in a busy intersection, a friend drove up beside me. He opened his window and asks, “Bo, where’s your Jaguar?”
I smiled and said, “It’s in the garage.”
My friend frowned. “You mean you don’t drive it?”
I shook my head. “I’ve never tried.”
He shook his head in disbelief. “You’ve never even started the engine and went around the block?”
“Never,” I smile. “Anyway, my jeep still runs away. At least, when it’s not conking out.”
Wouldn’t that be insane?
But that’s exactly what we do with our life.
I believe that God has given us power. In fact, the Bible says, I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. (Philippians 4:17).
Like that Jaguar in our garage, God has given us an inner force beyond our wildest imagination.
Star Wars was one of the first movies I watched. “May the Force be with you” Obi-wan said to Luke Skywalker.
Did you notice? It’s so similar to our response at Mass, “May the Lord be with you.”
Star Wars is fiction. But the spiritual war is real.
And “the Force” that God put in our hands is very real too.
In the next 4 weeks, I’d like to share with you the power that God has given you to move mountains (Week 1), enlarge territories (Week 2), increase harvests (Week 3), and finish strong (Week 4).
Even Atheists Have Faith
All of us have faith.
We can’t help it. Human beings are designed to believe in something. Or else we can’t operate in this world.
If you sit on a chair, you need to have faith that it won’t fall apart. If you eat in a restaurant, you need to have faith that the cooks are decent people who don’t put poison in the food. If you drive on a two-way road, you must have faith that the drivers coming in the opposite direction won’t cross that yellow lane between you.
Living in this world requires faith.
It’s just a question on what you’ll have faith on.
Let me shock you: An atheist has faith. He has faith in his logic, his thinking, and in his perceptions—much more than the religious traditions of his culture.
A fearful person has faith. He has faith that the monsters that he’s afraid of are possibly real and violent and powerful.
It’s easy to have faith in big things—like mountains.
Do You Believe In God Or In The Mountain?
Mountains seem big. They’re one of the biggest things our eyes can see.
And mountains seem immovable. You don’t wake up each morning asking, “Hmm, I wonder where Mount Everest travelled today…”
Some of us think of our problems as mountains because they’re big and they’re immovable. You see your financial problem as a mountain, your physical sickness as a mountain, your relationship problem as a mountain…
Many times, problems seem permanent.
But they’re not.
I believe God is permanent; And God’s Love is permanent; And God’s plan to bless you is permanent; And you are permanent! But all problems are temporary.
It’s really your choice.
Will you have faith in God or in your mountains?
Jesus tells us what we should choose, “Have faith in God,” Jesus answered. “Truly I tell you, if anyone says to this mountain, ‘Go, throw yourself into the sea,’ and does not doubt in their heart but believes that what they say will happen, it will be done for them. (Mark 11:22-23)
If you want to move the mountains in your life, there are three very crucial steps that you need to take…
1. Identify Your Mountain
2. Identify Your Authority Over The Mountain
3. Identify Where You Want The Mountain To Go
First Step: Identify Your Mountain
Mountains are made of up many layers.
In one sense, mountains are built on top of each other.
Like mountains, your problems are made up of many layers. Your problems are built on top of each other too.
Understand that you have two kinds of problems: Surface problem and Source problem. You can’t solve the Surface problem without solving the Source problem.
Let me give you two examples.
Is Debt Really Your Problem?
Many people say Debt is their problem. They’re buried in debt. Actually, debt is just the surface problem. Usually, beneath that surface problem are two source problems: Materialism and Ignorance.
What is Materialism? When you depend on material things for your happiness. When you wrap up your identity with material things.
I know of people who aren’t happy if they don’t wear a branded shirt. I know of guys who aren’t happy if they don’t drive a flashy car. I repeat: Many people are in debt because they’re materialistic. Debt is only a part of the mountain. The real mountain is their materialism.
Many people are in debt because they’re financially ignorant. They’re financially stupid. They think it’s normal to borrow for what you need and want. Hear me out: It’s not normal!
Borrowing money for clothes, watches, and appliances is sick.
Everyday, I get phone calls and text messages from banks and credit card companies—offering me debt. There’s a massive marketing campaign now—funded by huge companies, huge sales force, and huge budgets—for you to make borrowing a lifestyle.
Debt is not the problem. The problem is materialism and financial ignorance that spawns a borrowing lifestyle.
If you want to eradicate debt, you’ve got to eradicate materialism, financial ignorance, and the borrowing lifestyle!
Let me give you another example.
Is Heart Disease Your Real Problem?
One day, a man came up to me and said he had a heart condition. Doctors told him that he needed a bypass operation. From the way he looked, he was totally desperate.
On the spot, I prayed over for him. And I asked him to continue attending the Feast, our weekly spiritual gathering.
A few weeks later, he came up to me with his face beaming for joy. I didn’t even recognize him from that desperate man I met sometime ago. He said that all the medical tests showed zero blockages of his heart.
I was very happy for him.
But a few months later, I caught up with him. I was shocked that the smile was gone. He told me the sad news that he’s been having chest pains again.
His wife was beside him. With anger in her voice, she said, “Brother Bo, his problem isn’t his heart. His problem is workaholism. He works 15 hours a day. He travels almost every week. His abusing God’s goodness.”
I faced him, eyeball to eyeball, and said, “Look. Your heart disease was a message from God. If you don’t listen to the message, the message will keep coming back. You only have two choices. You either listen to that message or you die.”
The real problem wasn’t his heart problem. That was just the surface problem. The source problem was his work habits. He can’t tell his heart problem to go away without telling his job stress to go away. He may not get rid of his job, but he needs to get rid of how he works in his job.
Second Step:
Identify Your Authority Over The Mountain
Jesus said, “Tell the mountain…”
When people have a mountain of problems, they pray. And that’s very good.
But there comes a point when you should stop praying for your mountains and start talking to your mountains.
Because there comes a point when you have to switch from a victim mentality to a victor’s mentality.
If you’re sick, say, “Sickness, I command you to go in Jesus name. And in place of sickness, I now receive Health into my body. I now receive your strength, vitality, power. I command all malfunctioning organs to be restored, in Jesus name.”
Speak words of faith.
It may not happen overnight.
But in the unseen realm, things are changing in your favor.
In the Bible, Jesus spoke to the fig tree. He said, “You shall not bear fruit again.” The next day, true enough, the Bible says it was dried up all the way from the branches to the roots.
But that was the next day.
When Jesus spoke the words, it seemed as though nothing happened to the tree. It still looked normal.
But when Jesus spoke the words, immediately, something happened in its root system. Below the surface, invisible to the eye, the tree started drying up.
In the same way, when you speak words of faith, it seems as if nothing is happening. But below the surface, invisible to the eye, God is starting something in your situation.
When you say, “I claim the conversion of my children for the Lord,” it may seem as though your kids are still walking away from God—but believe that God is starting to work in their hearts.
When you say, “I claim healing in my body,” it may seem as though you’re as sick as ever—but believe that God is starting the work of healing as you speak.
Incredible power is released when we speak to our mountains.
Are You A Complainer Or A Conqueror?
He didn’t say, “Beg” or “Plead” or “Convince”. He said “Tell”.
Jesus wants you to know you have authority over that mountain. That authority comes from God.
You see, when you have problems, you have two choices. You can either be a Complainer. Or you can be a Conqueror.
Complainers talk about what’s happening; Conquerors make things happen.
Complainers are victims; Conquerors are victors.
Complainers are Mountain-Experts, Mountain-Observers. Mountain-Analyzers, Mountain-Evaluators…
But Conquerors are Mountain-Movers.
Don’t Dwell On The Mountain
Once upon a time, David faced a Mountain named Goliath.
When young David came into the scene of the battle, all the soldiers were Complainers. Every single one! Everyone was saying, “My gosh, look at the Giant! Look at those giant legs. Look at those giant arms. He’s so big. He’s a monster. He probably eats his own children for breakfast! And when he’s still hungry, he eats his nephews and nieces!”
But David wasn’t a Complainer. He was a Conqueror. He didn’t dwell on the Mountain. He dwelt on the Mountain-Mover. He said, “Who is this uncircumcised Philistine that he should defy the armies of the Living God? You come to me with sword and spear and javelin, but I come to you in the name of the Lord Almighty.”
Don’t focus on the mountain.
Focus on the mountain mover.
Third Step:
Identify Where You Want The Mountain To Go
This step is very critical.
Don’t dwell your thoughts on the problem, dwell your thoughts on the solution. Don’t dwell your thoughts on where you are now, dwell your thoughts on where you want to go.
Why?
Let’s try this little exercise.
(Be sure to do what I tell you to do.)
Don’t think of a pink elephant.
Don’t think of a pink elephant.
Don’t think of a pink elephant.
Don’t think of a pink elephant.
Don’t think of a pink elephant.
Don’t think of a pink elephant.
Don’t think of a pink elephant.
Don’t think of a pink elephant.
Be honest.
What are you thinking of right now?
Let There Be Light
You’ve heard me say this before. What you focus on grows.
So if all you think is your problem, your problem will grow bigger and bigger in your mind and in your reality.
Decide today to focus on your blessing!
I’m not saying, “Deny your problem.” That’s not what I’m saying. In fact, awhile ago, I told you to identify your problem. That’s Step 1. Unless you admit and take responsibility for your problem, you’ll not be able to solve it. You can’t go to Step 3 without going through Step 1.
But after identifying your problem, you’ve got to start identifying the solution to your problem.
Jesus said to tell the mountain to “Go” somewhere.
When God created the world, He didn’t say, “Darkness, disappear!” He didn’t say, “Evening, go away…” He didn’t say “Nighttime, vanish before me!”
He said, “Let there be light…”
The focus was on light, not on darkness.
In the same way, don’t focus on the problem, focus on the blessing that will replace the problem.
Don’t just say, “Sickness, go away…” You need to say, “I now receive health in my body, I receive vitality and strength and restoration in all the cells of my body…”
Don’t just say, “Debt, go away…” Say, “I receive financial freedom and abundance and simplicity!”
Why should you do this?
Because your words create your reality.
The Blessings of God are out there. They are everywhere. You are swimming in an ocean of blessings!
But when you speak words of blessing, something happens to the speaker. Something happens to you: You open yourself to the ocean of blessings that you are proclaiming about.
Dwell On How Big Your God Is
Let me say it again: What you focus on grows. (I will never grow tired of reminding you of this powerful spiritual principle. This law rules this universe.)
If you focus on the mountain, the mountain will grow. If you focus on your God, God will “grow” in your perspective. So focus on God.
Don’t dwell on how big your mountain is. Don’t dwell on how big your problem is. Don’t dwell on how big your difficulty is. Don’t dwell on how big your sickness is.
Stop telling God how big your mountains are; Start telling your mountains how big your God is!
Dwell your thoughts on the big God and say, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”
May your dreams come true,
Bo Sanchez

Saturday, June 23, 2012

Do you have a forgiving attitude? by bro. bo sanchez

Forgiveness is difficult. And confusing.
Before I share with you my main message, let me clarify two things that confuse a lot of people.
Forgiveness And Friendship Require 2 Decisions
First clarification: Forgiveness is different from Friendship.
When you forgive someone, it doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll be friends with him again.
For example, when a business partner steals from you, you should forgive him. But that doesn’t mean you’ll take him back as your business partner again. That’s a separate decision you’ll have to make.
When your drunkard husband beats you up regularly, you should forgive him. But that doesn’t mean you should take him back as a husband again.
One friend comes to mind: “Liza”. When I got to know her, her husband beat her up for the past 21 years. Her husband’s favorite tool of torture was his hammer. When he was angry, he’d pick up his hammer, push her hand to the wall, and hammer her fingers to bloody pulp.
I asked her, “Why did you stay with this monster for 21 years?” She said, “Because he asked me for his forgiveness.” I told her, “Don’t confuse forgiveness with stupidity. Forgive him, yes, but run away as far as possible from that monster.”
She said, “But I love him…”
I told her, “No, you don’t love him. You need him. You’re attached to him. But you don’t love him. If you really loved him, you would have walked out of that horrible marriage a long time ago. By staying there, you allowed him to continue in his sin of violence.”
Let me say it again. Forgiveness and friendship are two different things that require two different decisions.
Don’t confuse the two.
Second clarification. Please don’t be shocked with what I’m going to say next…
Don’t Rush To Forgive If The Wound Is Grave
When the hurt is very deep, don’t forgive right away.
When someone hurts you deeply, God doesn’t require that you forgive right away. When your husband commits adultery, or when an uncle molests you, or when a friend betrays you…, God doesn’t require that you drive out your feelings of anger “right now”.
Why? Because we’re not robots with push buttons on our chest.
In fact, God knows that we need to get angry for awhile as part of our healing.
By getting angry, we restore our dignity. By getting angry, we love ourselves. By getting angry, we say, “What you did to me was terribly wrong. You violated me.”
I repeat: The process of getting angry (for awhile) is part of your healing.
Anger is like a medicine with an expiration date. Before that expiration date, anger is medicine. After that expiration date, anger becomes poison.
At the right time, God will ask you to surrender your anger.
Which now brings me to our main message for today.
Goal: To Have A Forgiving Attitude
Today, my goal isn’t just to encourage you to forgive those who have wronged you in the past.
Today, my goal is much more ambitious than that.
My goal is to encourage you to develop a forgiving attitude.
Forgiveness is an isolated act. But a forgiving attitude is who you are normally, usually, regularly…
My belief? If you want to be happy in your life, you need to have a forgiving attitude.
Why?
Because you live amidst imperfect people.
You were born into an imperfect family, with imperfect parents, with imperfect siblings.
Announcement: You’re imperfect too! (Unless you happen to be a perfect alien from a perfect planet.)
Everyday, you’ll get hurt. Someone will step on your toe. Someone will stab your back. Someone will kick your behind. Someone will prick your pride. Someone will slander your name.
That’s why Jesus said, Forgive seventy times seven. (Matthew 18:21-22) That number is a Biblical symbol for “forever”.
Believe me, if you don’t have a forgiving attitude, you can’t enjoy any imperfect relationship.
Do You Have An Unforgiving Attitude?
Here’s what I know. A person who has an unforgiving attitude is an unhappy person.
For example, when a waiter brings the wrong order, does it ruin your entire day?
When a cashier makes a mistake, because she’s new, or she’s nervous, or she’s having her own family problems—Do you roll up your eyeballs and sigh a sigh of exasperation?
When a sister borrows your blouse without your permission and doesn’t return it washed and folded, do you fume for the rest of the day?
When a friend forgets to say “thank you” for her birthday gift, do you nurse a grudge until your next birthday?
Here’s the crazy thing about unforgiveness. You can be moping and grumbling at home, while the person you’re angry with could be sunbathing in Boracay.
Face it. Unforgiveness isn’t very wise.
Be Selfish: Have A Forgiving Attitude!
A wise man said, Forgiveness is first of all a gift you give yourself. Forgiveness is almost a selfish act—because of the incredible blessing the forgiver gets!
Imagine this scenario.
You’re so angry at someone, you decide to buy Triple-X poison from the drugstore. Upon reaching home, you drink the entire bottle yourself! And then you hope that the person who offended you dies because of the poison.
Huh?
Pretty insane, right?
But that’s the insanity of the unforgiving attitude.
I know of a woman who caught her husband having many affairs. It totally devastated her. It was such a deep wound, her bitterness slowly killed her body. She had cancer and after 2 years passed away. What happened to her husband? Still with his many girlfriends.
My friend is wiser.
She had a business partner who stole from her P8 Million. She thought it was the end of the world. She’d go to me at our weekly Feast, asking me to pray for her.
And in her heart, she made a decision to forgive her business partner. She refused to remain stuck. She didn’t spend time thinking how to avenge herself. She moved on.
Today, my friend has recovered from that loss—and so much more. Her God is prospering her business.
The business partner who stole from her? She heard that she was in jail—because of another crime.
My friend did the unthinkable: She visited her in jail.
Move On!
Many years ago, I heard through the grapevine that I was being accused of using people’s donations to buy myself a car.
That hurt. (If I used the donations to buy myself a car, I would have bought a Rolls Royce.)
I later learned that a friend had spread that gossip.
But on that same day, I forgave that friend in my heart.
Why? Because I was being “selfish”.
Here was my logic: It’s bad enough that he hurt me once. Why let him hurt me again (and again and again…) by rewinding the tapes of his sin in my mind?
Friend, if someone has hurt you—don’t let that hurt ruin your life. Don’t let a betrayal, or divorce, or adultery, or unfaithfulness destroy your life and your destiny.
Forgive and move on with your life!
Forgiveness means you won’t invest emotional energy to your hurt anymore.
Some people don’t do that.
They like rewinding the tapes. They like reviewing the hurt in their imagination. They like opening an old wound and puncturing it again. And again. And again.
What’s the Solution?
To heal our unforgiving attitude, we must ask, “What is the root of unforgiveness?”
From experience, our inability to forgive others comes from our inability to forgive ourselves. Yes, it can be that simple.
If you don’t receive God’s mercy, you can’t give mercy to others. The Bible says, Forgive as the Lord forgave you. (Colossians 3:13).
I remember Felipe.
Felipe told me he has a hard time forgiving others.
But as we continued talking, I found out something very glaring about him that he may not have noticed. When he himself does something wrong, he becomes very miserable. He doesn’t allow himself to be happy.
In other words, he punishes himself.
Even if Felipe asks for God’s forgiveness, (and verbally, he’ll tell you he believes that God forgives him), he’ll subconsciously find a way to pay for his sins. By not being happy. By suffering.
He wants to pay for his sins. He demands it upon himself.
Result? When others offend him (and he gets easily offended), he uses the same standards. He wants them to pay up as well.
There are still isolated Catholics who practice flogging. (Other religions practice this too.) These penitents whip themselves as a way of punishing themselves for their sins.
I’ve met Christians who no longer carry a physical whip, but they carry an invisible whip. When they make a mistake, they whip themselves “bloody” in their emotions. They condemn themselves. They walk through life depressed. They accept all suffering as just rewards for their sins—even suffering that’s totally unrelated to their mistakes.
They say they believe God loves them. They even sing about God’s Love. They’ll even tell you that they believe God has forgiven them. But internally, they insist on paying for their sins.
Friend, if there’s one thing I want you to learn today, it is this: Stop trying to pay for your sins!
Rest in His mercy. Let God pay for your sins.
God Desires Mercy, Not Sacrifice
From experience, it’s these people that have an unforgiving attitude.
Because one cannot give what one has not really received.
God says, I desire mercy, not sacrifice. (Matthew 9:13)
But there are people who like sacrifice. They want to keep sacrificing to God for their sins. And worse, they want others to sacrifice for their sins.
But God wants mercy.
I believe the root of all unforgiveness is fear.
Fear that if you don’t let “them” pay for their mistakes, you’ll never get back what you lost.
Not understanding that these people can’t pay anyway.
Here’s the big problem: Only God can pay you.
I was molested as a child. But I’ve long realized that my molesters can’t pay me back. They can’t return to my innocence. They can’t return to me the 20 years of agony.
But God can.
Let God Pay You
God saw you when you were offended. Hurt. Abandoned.
If someone stole from you, or hurt you, or offended you, read this verse: God says, Your shame and disgrace are ended. You will live in your own land. And your wealth will be doubled; Your joy will last forever. (Isaiah 61:7)
What is God saying? He’s telling you, “Let me handle your case. Put the situation in my hands. I’ll see to it that you’ll receive double than what you’ve lost. I’ll see to it that you’ll gain back what was stolen from you.”
As long as you let go and forgive, God will be your vindicator.
He’ll make your wrongs right.
He’ll return what the enemy has stolen.
He’ll even the score.
Remember Job? Job’s friends were trying to comfort him, but they said some hurtful things to him too.
Look at what the Bible says: Then, after Job had prayed for his three friends, the Lord made him prosperous again and gave him twice as much as he had had before. (Job 42:10)
If you forgive and pray for your enemies, get ready to be very blessed!
This was the story of my friend Mark.
Mark lent P1 Million to his business partner. It was a huge amount for my friend. But this partner ran away. This devastated Mark. It wasn’t only the money but the betrayal.
But instead of being bitter, staying at home, thinking of ways to get back at him, my friend Mark decided to expand his small business. Instead of spending his time cursing his enemy, he spent his time blessing his business.
After one year, Mark is now earning P1 Million every month. The exact money he lost, he earns now in a snap.
And what happened to the man who stole his money? Through the grapevine, Mark found out that the guy was still financially hard up.
You don’t have to see to it that justice is done. Because the universe is governed by the Law of Reciprocity. What you sow, you reap.
Read carefully:
Unforgiveness is taking matters in your hands.
Forgiveness is taking matters into God’s hands.
The Path Of Blessings
Let me define forgiveness for you: Being kind beyond what is reasonable.
Yes, forgiveness is insane.
On October 2, 2006, thirty-two-year old Charles Roberts entered an Amish school with an automatic rifle.
He tied up the legs of schoolgirls and prepared to shoot them, execution style.
The oldest hostage, a thirteen-year-old, asked Roberts to “shoot me and release the others.” But he didn’t listen to her. He fired at all of them with 400 rounds of ammunition.
He killed five girls.
When the police stormed into the school building, Charles Roberts shot and killed himself.
Why did he shoot the girls? He told them before shooting, “I’m angry at God for taking my little daughter.”
Immediately after the massacre, more than fifty news crews came into that small town. And what they witnessed was unbelievable.
After the funeral of their daughters, the families of these girls visited the funeral of the family of their murderer.
Why did they go there? They went there to offer words of forgiveness and consolation to his widow and her three children.
As if that wasn’t shocking enough, these families raised money for their murderer’s orphaned family.
Insanity.
Why did the Amish do this unexplainable thing?
Because the Amish are Christians. They follow the Bible when it says, “Love does not keep a record of wrongs.”
Yes, even if that wrong was killing their little daughter.
This is the mark of God in your life. When you treat well the people who don’t deserve to be treated well.
I have my little story of forgiveness.
In the past 30+ years of ministry, I’ve had my critics. Some criticized with love. Some criticized with venom.
Someone told me, “Bo, better read this blog. This guy calls you the devil’s servant.” I read his articles. It was true, the writer didn’t like me very much. He said I brought a lot of people to hell.
This is what I did: Instead of getting angry, I prayed blessings for him and his family.
When I did that, I cannot describe to you how free and happy I felt. And I also felt that God’s river of blessings began to flow more into my life.
It’s now your turn.
Have a forgiving attitude.
And bless all those who have offended you.
And believe that you’ll receive double what you have lost.
May your dreams come true,
Bo Sanchez

Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Meet your five most common neglected needs by bro. bo sanchez

Some people think loving yourself is easy.
It’s not. The reason why some people think it’s easy is because they confuse “selfishness” with “self-love”.

The Difference Between Selfishness And Self-Love
“Selfishness” and “Self-Love” look alike but they’re very different from each other. I compare them to the nuclear bomb and the nuclear plant. The nuclear bomb kills thousands but the nuclear plant helps thousands. (Researchers say that modern nuclear plants are very safe—even from earthquakes and tsunamis. The Fukushima nuclear plant was 40 years old.)
The difference is simple. “Selfishness” is meeting your own needs and your own needs only. “Self-love” is meeting your needs so that you can meet the needs of others even more.
Within you is a Love Tank. And your Love Tank has a faucet. The only way for love to flow out of that faucet is if your Love Tank is full. If you don’t receive love, you won’t be able to give love. You can’t give what you don’t have. You can’t love anyone if you don’t love yourself. You can’t even love God if you don’t love yourself.
Even Jesus honored his needs. The Bible says that when crowds of people came to him for healing, he honored his need to be alone. But Jesus often withdrew to lonely places and prayed. (Luke 5:15–16)
I know people who don’t even know their needs anymore. They are so overwhelmed by the needs of other people, they don’t have time to listen to their own needs.
Why?
Early on, they were brainwashed that their needs weren’t important. Correction: They were brainwashed that THEY were not important.
People with Toxic Shame feel they don’t deserve to meet their needs, whatever needs they have.
But Jesus shows us the way…
The Bible Says So
Jesus commanded, Love your neighbor as you love yourself.
And Paul said, Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others.” (Philippians 2:4) He assumes that you should look after your needs.
When you ride a plane, the stewardess says, “If you have a child with you, put your oxygen mask on first before assisting and putting the oxygen mask on your child.” This is an important lesson. If you can’t breathe, how can you help your child?
Today, I’d like to talk about healthy self-love.
How? By honoring your needs.
Honor Your Needs
Love yourself by honoring your needs.
You don’t hear this preached in Church often. Because we were taught that it is holy to neglect our needs—and prioritize the needs of others. Where does this neglect of self come from?
Let me review where this Toxic Shame comes from…
Source 1: Absentee Parenting
When our parents don’t spend time with us, we get the clear message that we’re not very important. And if we’re not important, our needs aren’t important too.
Major culprit? Absentee parenting. Because of workaholic parents, or non-involved parents, or narcissistic parents. These kids will grow up not valuing themselves. Desperate for love, they’ll seek this love from peers, from drugs, from achievements…
It also comes from how we relate with our emotions…
Source 2: Mismanaged Emotions
I see this scene often: When a child is running and stumbles—and cries with real tears because she got hurt (Note: Not just a tantrum), some misguided adults would tell her, “Stop crying! Don’t be a cry-baby! Stop! RIGHT NOW!” They force the child to stop feeling.
The unspoken message is, “Your emotions aren’t important. Shelve it. Discard it. Bury it.” The deeper message was, “Your needs are not important. Because YOU are not important. YOU have no value.”
If you repeat this 20,000 times to a child, this self-murdering message becomes part of their psyche.
Add to that a distorted religiosity that taught you to hate yourself… and you get a deadly bomb of Toxic Shame.
Source 3: Distorted Religion
When I was 13, I was a fan of St. Francis of Assisi. Like Francis, I wanted to live a life of poverty.
So I stopped wearing nice clothes. I wore the crummiest attire I could find. Old sandals. Old jogging pants. And old shirts with holes—the more, the better. I never put on deodorant because I considered it vanity. (Wherever I went, people said I had the odor of sanctity. But one day, my girlfriend told me, “The Bible says you should use deodorant.” I was shocked. I asked, “Where?” She said, “In the 10 commandments, it says, ‘Thou shall not kill…’ Because your toxic fumes are murdering me.”)
Looking back now, I realized that I neglected my appearance partly because I hated myself. I didn’t like myself. I had the “I Hate Myself” spirituality.
This spirituality is more common than you think. Some religious people think it’s the secret to sainthood. They think that God is very pleased if you hate yourself.
But as the years went by, I noticed I was burning out—like a burning matchstick.
I’ve noticed the same thing among many religious workers.
I’ve met religious people, from nuns to priests to laypeople, who suffer from burnout and depression because they repress their emotions. They see their feelings as enemies instead as friends. And they see all their desires as evil.
In fact, I notice that a lot of people neglect these five needs…
Five Needs That We Usually Neglect
We neglect many of our needs, but there are the five of the most common ones…
<!--[if !supportLists]-->1. <!--[endif]-->You Need Rest
Love yourself. Get some rest.
Tiredness is an epidemic. Many people are Chronically Tired. And we know why. This epidemic is caused by one virus: The virus of Prolonged Stress.
You know when you’re chronically tired?
Here’s a sure and obvious sign that you’ve got this disease: If you wake up in the morning already tired.
That means your sleep didn’t refresh you. That means there’s something wrong—you’re not addressing your need to rest.
Here’s my recommendation: Take mini-vacations.
Take mini-vacations within the day. It may just be ten minutes. It may just be thirty minutes. But take it.
Sit down, put your hands around a cup of hot herbal tea, inhale the aroma, breathe in peace, joy, love, hope, strength, and exhale all your frustration, stress, worry, fear, anxiety… In your mini-vacation of ten minutes, thirty minutes, one hour, pray, converse with God, meditate, think, plan, write your journal, talk to a confidant about why you do what you do.
Because I work on Sundays, I take a few hours each Monday morning to be alone. To relax. To read. To reflect. To relate. After that, I’m ready to serve another week with joy in my heart.
Take mini-vacations during the week, the month, and the year. You need rest. It’s one of the most neglected needs.
<!--[if !supportLists]-->2. <!--[endif]-->You Need Dreams
Love yourself. Keep dreaming.
Dreams are your fuel.
In one Catholic Conference, I gave a talk entitled, How To Make Your Dreams Come True. It was very well received. People came up to me and said, “Bo, I’m so excited. I’m going to dream again!”
But the next speaker was a priest. And he attacked my message. He said, “We have no business pursuing our dreams! That is selfishness. We should be only concerned about doing God’s will.”
I call this over-spiritualizing. If the priest allowed me to ask a question, I’d ask, “But Father, how will I know God’s Will for my life? Yes, God’s Will is found in the Bible and our Doctrines, but I also believe that God’s Will is found in my deepest desires. He planted dreams in my soul. I need to listen to the dreams that burn in my heart. Through the scalpel of prayer and discernment, I peel away my shallow desires, until I touch base with my deepest desires. And there, I will find the will of God.”
Friend, God created you as a Dreamer. You need to allow yourself to dream. Your dream could be very big or very small. It doesn’t matter. But you need to keep on dreaming, or you start dying.
My dream is big. I want to build 1000 Feasts all around the globe, with each Feast becoming a gushing spring of God’s Love to the world. (Note: That’s how we call our weekly prayer gatherings all over the world.)
If you notice, my dream won’t be fulfilled for a very long time. It will take ten or twenty years, maybe more. But that’s okay. I’m enjoying every step of the way.
Some dreams are small in size but big in value. I was talking to an 81 year old man. With a twinkle in his eye, he said, “Brother Bo, please pray that God will give a longer life. Because I want to see my granddaughter in America.” He pulled out his wallet and showed me a lovely photo of a 5-year old girl with dimples on her smile. He said, “I’m not in very good health, but everyday, I try to walk. Everyday, I eat well. So that I can see my little granddaughter before I die.”
What are your dreams? Identify them. Write them down. Pray for them. Announce them to the world. And make your dreams wake you up everyday.
<!--[if !supportLists]-->3. <!--[endif]-->You Need To Be You
Love yourself. Be you.
You need to be yourself. You need to be faithful to how God made you.
If you fit yourself into a cookie cutter, it will hurt—because parts of you will have to be cut away. In the same way, when you try to fit into the expectations of others, it will be painful.
The easiest way to live is to live authentically.
Be Faithful To Your Passion
Be faithful to your gifts.
If you can speak, then speak to inspire the world.
If you can build bridges, then build bridges that will last a hundred years so that your great grand kids can stand on that bridge and say out loud, “The father of the father of my father built this bridge.”
If you can dance, then dance like your feet are on fire and the ground beneath your feet shake to the beat of your dance.
If you can paint, then paint paintings that become mirrors so people can see themselves and windows so people can see the colors of the universe.
If you can repair cars, then repair cars so babies are safe and kids can go to school and parents can work.
If you can design clothes, then design clothes that will make mothers with cellulite on their legs and stretch marks on their bellies feel like a pretty princess again.
If you can make money, then make so much money, everyone around you gets rich.
If you can write songs, then “write the songs that make the whole world sing, I write the songs of love and special things, I write the songs that make the young girl cry, I write the songs, I write the songs.”
Be Faithful To Your Personality
Are you more talkative than the average person? If you are, don’t pretend to be quiet. God made you talkative for a purpose. If you’re talkative, then talk until everyone is sitting at your feet learning from your stories.
Are you quieter than the average person? Don’t pretend to be more talkative. Speak, but don’t use your words. Use your eyes, smile, your hands, your touch, your arms, your presence, to tell them know how special they are.
Do you laugh easily? Then laugh. Don’t try to be prim and proper. Don’t hide your laughter. Laugh hard, laugh long, and laugh deep. Whenever I speak on stage, I love it when someone in the audience laughs really loud. Because it gives permission for everyone else to laugh loud. And I love that because a happy person learns 1000 times more than a sad person.
So don’t hold back your laughter. Laugh so that the sick child will find hope. Laugh so that the frustrated friend so burdened with work will find strength. Laugh so that the mother trying to make both ends meet can make it for another day. Laugh so that this weary world will laugh with you.
Do you cry easily? Do you cry at a drop of a hat? Do you cry when it rains and do you cry when it shines? Do you cry when the flower blooms and do you cry when the flower dies? Don’t be ashamed to cry. Cry with a friend who gets dumped by a jerk. Cry with an officemate who gets scolded by a boss. Cry with the father whose dream of going abroad was denied. Cry with the little child who feels left out. Cry so that grieving people around the world will never feel alone.
Weirdness Can Make You Wealthy
Be faithful to your weirdness. Your craziness. Your idiosyncrasies. Your peculiarities. Your quirks. Your birthmarks. They have a place in God’s scheme of things.
Be forewarned: Some people will hate your weirdness. Don’t mind them. Because some people will adore your weirdness! Your weirdness will gather a community of raving fans who think you’re the coolest thing next to peanut butter ice cream.
Some of the wealthiest businesses in the world—Apple, Amazon, eBay, Google, Starbucks—are not commodities. They’re unusual, unique, skewed, one-of-a-kind, strange… In other words, weird.
And speaking of wealthy…
<!--[if !supportLists]-->4. <!--[endif]-->You Need Money
Love yourself. Earn money.
I’ve met religious people who believe that to save for their future was selfishness. It’s a double whammy: That means they were selfish and materialistic at the same time.
But you need money. Everyone needs money. The nuns who run orphanages need money. The priest who rides his motorcycle to celebrate Mass in faraway barrios needs money. The boyfriend buying a rose to ask forgiveness from his girlfriend needs money. The grandmother in her rocking chair wondering how she could buy her medicine needs money.
Don’t earn money for today only. (Look around you. You’re no longer living in the desert, Moses is no longer with you, and you’re not eating manna for breakfast, lunch, and dinner.) Earn money for today and tomorrow and the day after.
Don’t earn money for yourself only. That’s selfishness. Earn money for yourself and the orphan that needs you and the maid that helps you and waiter that serves you and the barber that styles you and the church that blesses you. So earn as much money as you can.
And finally, your most important need…
<!--[if !supportLists]-->5. <!--[endif]-->You Need Love
Love yourself. Invest in relationships.
This is your greatest need.
My recommendation? Invest in your relationships TODAY and you’ll have big gains TOMORROW.
Invest in your spouse. Invest in your children. Invest in your siblings. Invest in your friends. Invest in your parents.
What will you invest? Your time. Your care. Your service. Your patience. Your forgiveness. Believe me, the returns are out of this world. (This is literal. I’m talking about Heaven.)
My friend Adrian Panganiban showed me a letter from a Mom and Dad, and it touched me very much.
I quote it here because I want to stress the point that at the end of your life, you’ll need love more than anything in this world.
Here’s the letter…
Please Bear With Me
Dear Child,
As I get older, please be patient with me.When I drop things or make a mess of my food, I hope you don’t shout at me or scold me. Please bear with me.When my eyesight dims and I stumble along my way, or when my hearing gets really bad and I can’t hear what you say, please bear with me.When these embarrassing and difficult times come, if you could just hold my hand and tell me that you understand… I’m sorry child, I’m getting older. Please bear with me.When my feet get crooked and my knees get weaker, when I fumble in my steps and I walk slower, I hope you remember the time when I taught you how to walk. Please bear with me.When I keep repeating my stories to you, sometimes 4 or 5 times a day, just smile and pretend I said it the first time. Because to my failing memory, it’s really the first time I’m saying it to you. Just remember how you repeated yourself as a child. Remember how many times you asked, “Are we there yet?” every time we took a trip. Or how many times you asked, “Mommy, can you buy me this toy?” whenever we were in a toystore? Please bear with me.When I don’t smell so nice, when I smell like an old person, please be patient with me. When you smell something not too good from me, I hope you remember that when you were small, you used to sweat and smell too. But I loved it because it was part of your growing up. Well, my smells are part of my growing old. Please bear with me.When I get cranky or get sensitive, or when I get sentimental and moody, or when I get pushy and demanding, all these are all part of getting old. You’ll understand when you get older. Please bear with me.When you have time, I hope you visit me. Talk with me for a few minutes. I’m always all by myself and have no one to talk to. I know you’re busy with work but your work will always be with you, even after I’m gone. I won’t be here forever. Please bear with me.Even if you’re not interested in my stories, please pretend you are. Do u remember when I used to listen to your stories about your toys, your imaginary friends, and the cartoons you watched? Those things weren’t very interesting to me, but because they were important to you, they were important to me too. I ask you to please bear with me.When the time comes when I get sick and bedridden, I hope you visit me. I’m sorry if I accidentally wet the bed or make a mess. I hope you stay with me during the last few moments of my life. I’m not going to last much longer anyway. Please bear with me.I pray for you everyday. When I finally meet God, I will continue to mention your name to Him.I love you.We love you.Please bear with me.
Eternally,Mom and Dad
So I repeat: Invest in your relationships.
My fondest wish for you?
May you grow old with the people you love.
Honor your needs.
by Bro. Bo Sanchez